Displaying episodes 1 - 30 of 80 in total

“I listed alternate behaviors, now how do I get myself to do them?”

What should Suzanne do? She listed out alternative behaviors to turn to when she is triggered to binge. But she's not turning to them.

Food Limit Reactivity: "Even the thought of cutting back makes me binge” (part 2 of 2)

Does any type of food guideline, rule, or limit "set you off?" You're not alone. As a person's relationship with food heals, this type of food limit reactivity goes down. In other words, it becomes tolerable, then comfortable to experiment with waiting to eat for a short time, or choosing some foods more often than others... without alarms going off and causing binges. This process takes several months of gentle practice in a consistent, kind, and trusting atmosphere. Learn more in this episode.

Food Limit Reactivity: "Even the thought of cutting back makes me binge" (Part 1 of 2)

Food limit reactivity is an issue that I often see in my clients. If you feel like the mere thought of eating less drives you into a panic, sparking an immediate desire to eat compulsively, you may be experiencing it. This state makes it all but impossible to lose weight, or follow food guidelines for the sake of your health. Let's explore it together in this episode.

Is Recovery Just Willpower?

Is recovering from binge eating a matter of willpower? Are we wasting our time looking for answers in books, podcasts, therapists, when what we really need is to buck up and try harder? Find out why I say no. (And why the implication that "all it takes" is willpower makes me bristle).

"I wanted it": All about managing desire

It's human to want. Feeling a desire for a particular food (as in a craving), or simply a strong desire to EAT is a normal challenge to work through on our road to healing from disordered eating. In this episode, we cover some of the pitfalls you can avoid, and how to help yourself reach a place where you connect with and notice your desires, without being bossed around by them.

Julie: "I do it all, or nothing at all."

After 30 years of battling food and her body, Julie doesn't want to hide and eat cookies in the pantry. She wants to feel like her healthy eating during the day extends through the evening hours too. Above all, she wants to just eat in peace.

Moving from Calorie Counting to Using Body Signals (And Emotions!)

In the last podcast episode we talked about building up skill with sensing hunger, fullness, and emotions, while still continuing to count calories if you aren't ready to let go of that part. Now, what comes next.

Can I Count Calories AND Learn To Follow My Body Signals?

"I want to learn how to eat by body signals... but I'm scared to stop counting calories, because I'm sure I'll gain weight." This is not the exception, it's the rule. In this episode, I'll help you navigate the fear of this dilemma.

How to Stop Eating at Satisfied (even if you've tried and failed 87,523 times)

It sounds straightforward: if we always stopped eating once we reach the point of satisfaction, we would consume the right amount for our body, feel positive and proud, and live happily ever after. But... stuff tends to get in the way, doesn't it?

Sugar, Sweetness, and Self Compassion

Martina could use a hand with eating less sugar. She keeps trying to avoid sugar during the week, and permit it on the weekend, but consistently finds she doesn't actually make it to the weekend. On top of that issue she's feeling "like a loser" for not having solved this problem already. In this episode, we explore remedies for both issues.

Surviving Holiday Visits With Fat-Phobic or Rude Family Members

If Aunt Patty always upsets you by making a snide comment on your bodyweight, this is the year you will be prepared.

"I am 54 years old, and I don’t know how to eat if I'm not dieting"

Can I have dessert? How much? Can I eat carbs? Do I have to eat vegetables? Deciding to stop dieting can bring up many questions. Let's uncover some answers.

How To Keep Resentment and Rebelliousness From Holding You Back

Most people don't want to feel resentful. Most of us want to be gracious and grateful, or at least appear that way. But many people who struggle with emotional eating or binge eating struggle with this feeling. Here are solutions.

Binge Eating, Trauma, and How They Are Related

A shocking number of people with disordered eating, (including binge eating or compulsive eating) have been through painful or difficult events in their past. The things that happened to us, even long ago, can still influence the way we see the world and how our brains work today. To understand our behavior, it helps to look at all the things we have been through as well.

What Happened to My Self Control?

I was so "good" at dieting", people say. "What happened?" In this episode we explore cognitive factors which can bolster or weaken your ability to resist temptations and meet your goals.

How To Change After Binge Eating Has Become A Habit

Most people who develop a binge eating pattern can see how it is impacted by emotional states, triggering situations, or hunger states. Have a negative review at work? Many people would be more vulnerable to binge that day. Extra body-conscious because of an upcoming vacation? Same deal; more temptation to binge eat. But this isn't the case for everyone. If binge eating has simply become a daily habit, unrelated to the emotional content of the moment, we address it differently. Learn more in this episode. Plus, I share the super-powerful skill of the "no tomorrows" policy.

"Help! I'm suddenly slipping"

You can be cruising along, proudly practicing your emotion and self-care skills, living the binge-free life... when a relapse of old behaviors barges in and shakes all your confidence. Fear not. Here's what to do when all of a sudden you feel like you've lost traction.

Seeing the Best of Yourself in Photos

As soon as you see your summer vacation photos, do you start picking apart your appearance? Ever pull out an old photo and think, "oh, I didn't look bad at all but I was convinced I looked terrible that night!" In this show we'll cover why these fun house mirror distortions happen, and how to see past them.

"I know what to do, I just don't do it" Part 2

In the second episode on closing the gap between *knowing* and *doing*, Georgie shares more practical tips. You'll find out how to start on the bunny slope, go for partial credit instead of pass/fail, and manage emotions about the past which have - until today, that is - held you back like an anchor.

"I know what to do, I just don't do it" (Part 1)

When you know what to do, but just aren't doing it, how do you get unstuck? Listen in for Georgie's advice on turning what you *want to do* into what you are *actually doing*.

Do I even Want to Feel Better?

Mystifying. Puzzling. Baffling. We could use any of these adjectives to describe the phenomenon of knowing what to do to make ourselves feel better - and not doing it. It's one thing to not know. But when it's right there, you know it's doable and that it's effective, what the heck is it getting in the way? Fear not, you are absolutely not the only person to experience this, and we've got tips to help.

What Does It Mean?

“Maybe it means I really just need to find some willpower!”" I worry that my struggling with the workload means I’m not cut out for this job.” (That was Brian.)“If I crave a burger, does it mean I need nutrients, like iron?” All these people wanted to know, “what does this behavior or feeling or craving, mean?” Our searching for meaning can lead us off the path of growth if we start to attach incorrect meanings to things. In today’s episode, we’ll talk about binges, cravings, slip ups and emotions, and what they all mean. And in some cases, what they don’t mean. 

There's An Idea

What if urges to binge eat or compulsively raid the cabinets didn't feel so... urgent? What if they were weak, flimsy thoughts that passed by? In this episode, we'll talk about how changing your perspective can help you successfully pass on things which used to trigger uncontrolled eating.

Clearing Your Mental Filter

With so much information coming us during every waking hour, we  naturally pay more attention to some data than others. But left unchecked, your mind may focus on prioritizing the wrong type of information. In this episode we'll talk about how to discover what kind of filtering your mind might do, and how get rid of any unhelpful filters that create a biased view of the world. 

The Power Of Possibilities

Taking stock of our past often leads us to conclude that the future will be a repetition: same struggles, same mistakes, same old patterns. But that line of reasoning has a crucial flaw. In this episode we explore the most beneficial perspective to take when it comes to your future, and what you can be absolutely certain of. 

My Brain Is A Liar (But It's Ok, So Is Yours)

Cognitive distortions are part of the “launch sequence” you could say, leading up to binge or emotional eating.  The idea of eating a lot of food isn’t itself compelling, but it’s these sabotaging thoughts - which are kind of like little lies - that nudge you into doing it by saying that it’s a good idea, that it will help you feel better, that it will give you the rest and comfort you need and that you deserve it. That you’re going to fail at being healthy anyway so why bother trying? When we improve these thought patterns to remove the distortions, the idea of binge eating or emotionally eating isn’t as attractive, it’s more like an idea you can just pass on. So let's uncover the truth behind the natural phenomenon of cognitive distortion. 

"I Should Be Able to Handle It"

Somewhere in time, many of us got the idea that we "should be" able to perform certain tasks. We might base it on the idea that everyone else can do X, therefore we ought to as well. Or we might reason that after working on recovery for so long and investing so much effort and money, it's only appropriate that we have gained certain abilities by this date or we are behind schedule. When it comes to food and body image challenges, these tasks might be bringing tempting foods into the house, checking out fitness accounts on social media, weighing ourselves, or starting a new diet program or cleanse. "Yes this will be a challenge, but I should be able to handle it." What should you be able to handle, anyway? Are you tempting fate with that jumbo bag of chips, or just trying to be a normal person? This episode might make you reconsider some of your own ideas. 

The $895 Sweater

"I just want to eat". You've probably had this thought as you're considering all the other things you could choose from in this moment. But you're tired. It's been a hard day. You don't want those other things as much as you want food. In this episode, you'll find the tools you need to manage the moment successfully.  (You adaptable, thought-shifting superhero, you. )

Your Overwhelm Management Guide (OMG)

Heading back to work after a holiday is prime time for a wave of overwhelm. Feeling overwhelmed includes feeling small, incapable, confused, and frustrated. And unfortunately, many of us end up in this state on a daily or weekly basis! A sense of overwhelm might have sent you searching for food in the past, but it doesn't have to. Listen for a 5 step guide to managing your OMG situations, and you'll hear how a real-life client used it in her own success. 

You Will Feel So Good ... Later.

Have you had any "wow, this sucks" moments lately? If so, know this: it's a sign you are making progress if you feel intense emotions. Maybe they are more intense than ever before. It means at least in this moment, you haven't numbed or distracted yourself with food. Getting through these moments is hard, but it's worth it. Choosing to grow means choosing to experience feelings, and it often feels worse to sit and feel without going to food, but it pays off later that night, the next morning, and for the rest of your life. 

© 2021 Breaking Up With Binge Eating